Monday, February 13, 2006

How Single People People Deal With Valentine's Day

(This is intended as the pure literate exercise of adult fantasies--absolutely do not click on this link if sexual language is offensive to you, or, if you are not an adult. I'm serious, I am recently single and I'm attempting to be an enlightened person who doesn't rely on an economy of images (porn)--I reject the idea of businesses supplying our fantasies. I want my mind to eroticize itself, of course, it will probably work through generations of socially interperllated symbolic constructions of sexual relations (for instance my first post)--our minds should be our own and we need to exercise all aspects of imagination. I need to sift what has been programmed into me and to recognize why I think/feel/lust the way I do... will it help? Who knows? But how else can one seperate the sexual fantasies that have been programmed and those that would come naturally?))

Erotic Fantasies (delinked)

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I delinked the website I created and removed it from blogger. It was that great romantic holiday, I'm single, being susceptible to the social messages being broadcast all around me, I was wondering how much my sexual fantasies were informed by mediatized constructions of human sexuality. I practiced writing what came to mind and, not suprisingly, it was a blend of hollywood films, penthouse forum letters, and Vallejo pulp novel covers... it was interesting to think about where these images come from and I wrote a bit afterwards--I'm going to think about it more ... but I felt it was something I should remove from circulation.

5 comments:

Michael said...

Ricia,

You are a beautiful person and I appreciate your reminder of what is erotic.

We are taught to disengage from the world and you remind me of how much sensuality is lost through the purely sexual fantasies that are imposed upon us ... (I see a need for sexual fantasies, I'm just disturbed by the corporate control of the erotic impulse and wanted to claim my own fantasy)

I don't exactly know why I felt the need to get that one out ;) I was struggling with being alone this corporate love day. Resisting feeling sorry for myself (but obviously doing so) and I guess in my own narcissitic way rejecting the industry that seeks to satisfy sexual fantasies. I just wanted to see what would happen if I let my thoughts go?

Of course it was fleeting, not completely satisfying, as can be see by later posts, I obviously had more on mind?

Once again, thanks, I am moved to reconsider my sense of eroticism (and to ponder its limitations!)

Michael said...

Thanks Ricia :)

Happy Corporate Sanctioned Love Day!

Anonymous said...

eroticism is what you want it to be...a friendly smile from a passerby.
A stolen glance in an elevator. The smell of perfume on somene that reminds you of a long lost love. Sitting in the park watching an elderly couple hold hands and laughing. The flip of the hair or the sweet laughter you elicit from someone.

What do i find erotic? My wife greeting me at the door asking how my day was....watching her and our daughter become more than mother and daughter but friends. The smile on her face when I do something stupid (needless to say that keeps things VERY erotic around my place). I guess I am lucky in that I find her as desirable now, 18 years and a myriad of issues later as I did when we first met.

ABBY

Michael said...

Thanks Abby!

Anonymous said...

Nothing to add ... but so very well said.